Note – Allen B. is also Dr. Allen Berger the author of a number of articles in our Emotional Sobriety section of the website and the book ‘12 Essential Insights For Emotional Sobriety’. I stood there in line growing more and more impatient. After all, I had important things to do. I didn’t have theContinue reading “Unacceptable – Grapevine Article October 2022 By Allen B.”
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No One Is Coming – 12 Essential Insights For Emotional Sobriety By Allen Berger
What if what we were seeking was already within us but was masked , hidden and unknown? This article is extracted from Chapter 7 of Dr. Allen Berger’s outstanding book 12 Essential Insights For Emotional Sobriety. You can think of this article as helping us discover and welcome with curiosity the ‘unsuspected inner resource’(BB p.567) describedContinue reading “No One Is Coming – 12 Essential Insights For Emotional Sobriety By Allen Berger”
Practicing Convey Not Convince – Reminders For Effective Conversations By Thom R.
In the 4th step of the Twelve & Twelve on page 53, we are presented with this assertion: “The primary fact that we fail to recognize is our total inability to form a true partnership with another human being. Our egomania digs two disastrous pitfalls. Either we insist upon dominating the people we know, orContinue reading “Practicing Convey Not Convince – Reminders For Effective Conversations By Thom R.”
Step 10 – Make A U-Turn As We Seek To Understand Our Part(s) In A Disturbance – Altogether You By Jenna Riemersma
This article gives us some new ways of approaching the spiritual axiom described on page 90 of the Twelve & Twelve in the chapter on Step 10: “It is a spiritual axiom that every time we are disturbed, no matter what the cause, there is something wrong with us” Dr. Allen Berger likes to clarifyContinue reading “Step 10 – Make A U-Turn As We Seek To Understand Our Part(s) In A Disturbance – Altogether You By Jenna Riemersma”
No Personal Power – As Bill Sees It #114
At first, the remedy for my personal difficulties seemed so obvious that I could not imagine any alcoholic turning the proposition down were it properly presented to him. Believing so firmly that Christ can do anything, I had the unconscious conceit to suppose that He would do everything through me—right then and in the mannerContinue reading “No Personal Power – As Bill Sees It #114”
Owning Our Power In Relationships – The Language Of Letting Go By Melody Beattie
So much of what I call my codependency is fear and panic because I spent so much of my life feeling abused, trapped, and not knowing how to take care of myself in relationships. — Anonymous No matter how long we have been recovering, we may still tend to give up our power to others,Continue reading “Owning Our Power In Relationships – The Language Of Letting Go By Melody Beattie”
Don’t Let Yesterday Take Up Too Much Of Today – Coach John Wooden With A Poem By Vivian Laramore
A short reflection of how the hall of fame basketball coach John Wooden used a poem in his ‘Make Every Day Your Masterpiece’ philosophy. – Bruce M. DON’T LET YESTERDAY TAKE UP TOO MUCH OF TODAY This maxim represents the foundation of Coach Wooden’s approach as a teacher. He often reminded his players of this withContinue reading “Don’t Let Yesterday Take Up Too Much Of Today – Coach John Wooden With A Poem By Vivian Laramore”
Step Nine: Scene Of The Crime – Grapevine Article September 1993 By Kit K.
The rocks looked the same. The light in the sky at sunset was as I remembered it; the stillness and silence of the pinyon-juniper forest had not changed. This was the day I returned to the windswept landscape of northern Arizona from which I had fled five years before. When I left, I was runningContinue reading “Step Nine: Scene Of The Crime – Grapevine Article September 1993 By Kit K.”
One Man’s Deep Dive Into The Principles Of Each Step By Herb K.
PRINCIPLES: Foundational TRUTHS: core VALUES which regulate moral behavior; guidelines and guardrails:
Getting To Know Our Differentiated Self – 12 Essential Insights For Emotional Sobriety By Dr. Allen Berger
I think there is a strong connection between this article and what I like to call the ‘mini-steps’ suggested as responses to a spot inventory of what disturbs us. These mini-steps are suggested in the Twelve £ Twelve in Step 10. Specifically, I see this article as very prescriptive when I find myself taking thingsContinue reading “Getting To Know Our Differentiated Self – 12 Essential Insights For Emotional Sobriety By Dr. Allen Berger”