The Steps are in order for a reason; each one prepares us for the next. We acknowledge that our way hasn’t worked when we surrender to Step One. Some members boil it down to a single acknowledgment: I need something different. This admission opens the door for us to recognize our need for restoration in Step TwoContinue reading “Surrendering Shortcomings – A Spiritual Principle A Day August 14th”
Category Archives: Emotional Sobriety
Pause And Surrender – Why Getting Derailed Might Be the Point By Barry Michaels
Let’s be real, we have all been interrupted…especially when you’re in the middle of something important. During those moments most of us want to explode, especially on the person or situation that has broken our flow. As humans we struggle to embrace unexpected demands. On a deeper level, it is safe to say, our egoContinue reading “Pause And Surrender – Why Getting Derailed Might Be the Point By Barry Michaels”
Find Your Friend Within – Breath; Wake Up To Life By Prem Rawat
I love the reflections on breath from this book written by Prem Rawat. When first sober and very defiant in my agnosticism, I was able to find a way of relating to a Power greater than myself as breath. I knew my breath was absolutely essential to my life yet something I was being given eachContinue reading “Find Your Friend Within – Breath; Wake Up To Life By Prem Rawat”
Spiritual Discipline Builds Good Character – A Spiritual Principle A Day August 6th
“My parents sacrificed to send me away to school when I was a kid. They were at their wits’ end and hoped that this school could drill some discipline into me,” a member shared. “They said it would build character. It toughened me up, all right, and made me even more rebellious. It would beContinue reading “Spiritual Discipline Builds Good Character – A Spiritual Principle A Day August 6th”
Membership Rules? – As Bill Sees It #41
Around 1943 or 1944, the Central Office asked the groups to list their membership rules and send them in. After they arrived we set them all down. A little reflection upon these many rules brought us to an astonishing conclusion. If all of these edicts had been in force everywhere at once it would haveContinue reading “Membership Rules? – As Bill Sees It #41”
The Need to Go Deeper – Grapevine Article August 2012 By Richard D.
Uncovering all the harm he caused in his drinking days restored his compassion for others STEP EIGHT: Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all. Looking back, it is probably safe to say that I harmed many people whom I came in contact with duringContinue reading “The Need to Go Deeper – Grapevine Article August 2012 By Richard D.”
Praying for Others – As Bill Sees It #206
While praying sincerely, we still may fall into temptation. We form ideas as to what we think God’s will is for other people. We say to ourselves, “This one ought to be cured of his fatal malady” or “That one ought to be relieved of his emotional pain,” and we pray for these specific things.Continue reading “Praying for Others – As Bill Sees It #206”
On Joy And Sorrow – Recovery Poem From “The Prophet” by Kahlil Gibran
One of the many gifts I’ve received from sobriety is recognizing the distortion of my all or nothing thinking. So much of what is revealed as true for me is beyond what I can express rationally … one is too many and a thousand not enough … we keep it by giving it away. ThereContinue reading “On Joy And Sorrow – Recovery Poem From “The Prophet” by Kahlil Gibran”
Expectations: The Hidden Contracts We Never Signed – Take The 12 Blog June 2026 By Rick W.
One of the more interesting writing assignments I’ve ever suggested to a sponsee had nothing to do with Step Four, amends lists, or character defects. It was simply this: Write about your expectations. At first glance, that may not seem like a particularly “A.A.” topic. Expectations don’t appear in the Twelve Steps. The Big Book doesn’tContinue reading “Expectations: The Hidden Contracts We Never Signed – Take The 12 Blog June 2026 By Rick W.”
When We Stop Negotiating With Reality – Take The 12 Blog May 2026 By Rick W.
Step One, Acceptance, and the Freedom Found in Surrender One of the most exhausting things an alcoholic ever does is negotiate with reality. We negotiate with consequences. We negotiate with truth. We negotiate with our own patterns, our own pain, our own powerlessness. We say things like: And perhaps the most dangerous negotiation of all: “IContinue reading “When We Stop Negotiating With Reality – Take The 12 Blog May 2026 By Rick W.”