The winds of change blow through our lives, sometimes gently, sometimes like a tropical storm. Yes, we have resting places—time to adjust to another level of living, time to get our balance, time to enjoy the rewards. We have time to catch our breath. But change is inevitable and desirable. Sometimes, when the winds ofContinue reading “Accepting Change – The Language Of Letting Go April 19th By Melody Beattie”
Category Archives: Rationalizations
Making Use Of Telephone Therapy – Living Sober Chapter 10
When we were first trying to achieve sobriety, many of us found ourselves taking a drink without planning to. Sometimes, it seemed to happen practically without our knowing it. There was no conscious decision to drink, and there was no real thought about possible consequences. We had not intended to set off an entire drinkingContinue reading “Making Use Of Telephone Therapy – Living Sober Chapter 10”
If You Spot It You Got It – How We Distort Reality With The ‘Blind Spot’ Of Our Projections
This article is a good follow up to a post I entitled ‘Changing The Way We See’. The articles ‘Revolutionary! How Step 10 Suggests A Novel Response Ability When We’re Disturbed’ as well as ‘Make A U-Turn As We Seek To Understand Our Part(s) In A Disturbance’ are also quite relevant to this topic ofContinue reading “If You Spot It You Got It – How We Distort Reality With The ‘Blind Spot’ Of Our Projections”
Living With Our Conscience – A Spiritual Principle A Day December 19th
“In the end, we are the ones who must live with our conscience. In order to do so comfortably, we must decide what is, and what is not, morally acceptable in our lives.” It Works, Step Ten Page 365 There’s some irony in the fact that self-centeredness can make it difficult to stay in ourContinue reading “Living With Our Conscience – A Spiritual Principle A Day December 19th”
To Rebuild Security – As Bill See It #301
In our behavior respecting financial and emotional security, fear, greed, possessiveness, and pride have too often done their worst. Surveying his business or employment record, almost any alcoholic can ask questions like these: In addition to my drinking problem, what character defects contributed to my financial instability? Did fear and inferiority about my fitness forContinue reading “To Rebuild Security – As Bill See It #301”
Freedom To Choose – Just For Today Reflection October 20th
In our active addiction, many of us lived our lives by default. We were unwilling or unable to make choices about how we wanted to act, what we preferred to do, or even where we would live. We allowed our addiction and other people to make our most basic decisions for us. Freedom from activeContinue reading “Freedom To Choose – Just For Today Reflection October 20th”
A Slob’s Guide to Spiritual Growth – Grapevine Article April 1982 By C.H.
IT’S A SQUIRMY word–“spiritual.” It makes me uncomfortable. It reminds me of the time I spent as a child sitting in a church and trying to look holy. “Spiritual” is confused in my mind with a kind of hymn and has connotations of mediums, levitation, and ghosts. Worse, “spiritual” implies pretensions of sainthood, a hypocriticalContinue reading “A Slob’s Guide to Spiritual Growth – Grapevine Article April 1982 By C.H.”
Acceptance Not Blaming Others Or Condemning Ourselves – Touchstone Reflection July 2nd
Fair play is primarily not blaming others for anything that is wrong with us.—Eric Hoffer As adults, we accept responsibility for our feelings and our circumstances. We haven’t chosen our own troubles, but we have the job of dealing with them. If a person falls and breaks a leg, he might say to someone, “It’sContinue reading “Acceptance Not Blaming Others Or Condemning Ourselves – Touchstone Reflection July 2nd”
AA’s Starfish Of Individual & Collective Responsibility – Richard Rohr Daily Meditation June 27th
Authors Ori Brafman and Rod Beckstrom reflect on the Alcoholics Anonymous community and the powerful lessons we can learn from them. Starfish have an incredible quality to them: If you cut an arm off, most of these animals grow a new arm. And with some varieties, such as the Linckia, or long-armed starfish, the animalContinue reading “AA’s Starfish Of Individual & Collective Responsibility – Richard Rohr Daily Meditation June 27th”
Using Blame To Avoid & Distort Reality – Keep It Simple June 25th
When a man points a finger at someone else, he should remember that three of his fingers are pointing at himself.—Louis Nizer It’s so easy to blame others. Others are always making mistakes we can hide behind. That’s what blame is—hiding. When we blame others for our mistakes, we’re trying to hide our character defects.Continue reading “Using Blame To Avoid & Distort Reality – Keep It Simple June 25th”