Try harder. Do better. Be perfect. These messages are tricks that people have played on us. No matter how hard we try, we think we have to do better. Perfection always eludes us. Messages of perfectionism are tricks because we can never achieve that goal. We cannot feel good about ourselves or what we haveContinue reading “Letting Go Of Old Beliefs – The Language Of Letting Go June 23rd By Melody Beattie”
Category Archives: Relationships
Practicing The Twelve Steps And Finding Real Freedom – Epilogue ‘The Fix’ By Ian Morgan Cron
We’re on this earth to learn how to “bear the beams of love,” as William Blake wrote, to lean into the Spirit, to avail ourselves of healing, to ease the burdens of others, and not rely on overeating, drinking, drugging, watching porn, compulsively controlling people, or any other repetitive, self-medicating behaviors to escape reality andContinue reading “Practicing The Twelve Steps And Finding Real Freedom – Epilogue ‘The Fix’ By Ian Morgan Cron”
Practicing Surrender – Extract From Progloue/Epilogue Of Surrender To Love By David Benner
How does surrender address the fundamental reality of ‘lack of power, that was our dilemma’ (BB p.45) ? What is the dynamic between the surrender of offering myself or abandoning myself and finding who I really am … my true self … distinguishing the true from the false ? Is it possible that to “thineContinue reading “Practicing Surrender – Extract From Progloue/Epilogue Of Surrender To Love By David Benner”
What Do You Get When You Squeeze An Orange By Wayne Dyer
I love this very simple 3 minute video. It’s a powerful reminder that what comes out from me is a direct reflection of what is in me. On the final page of the Big Book (before the stories ) on page 164; we find these suggestions and observations: “Ask Him in your morning meditation whatContinue reading “What Do You Get When You Squeeze An Orange By Wayne Dyer”
Changing Motives – Just For Today June 10th
As we examine our beliefs, our actions, and our motives in recovery, we’ll find that sometimes we do things for the wrong reasons. In our early recovery, we may have spent a great deal of money and time on people, wanting only for them to like us. Later on, we may find that we stillContinue reading “Changing Motives – Just For Today June 10th”
Dr. Silkworth …The Little Doctor Who Loved Drunks Grapevine Article May 1951 By Bill W
The original article that appeared following the death of Dr. William Duncan Silkworth in 1951 A drunk is lying on a bed in a hospital, and a doctor is sitting beside the bed. The drunk is talking earnestly to the doctor. “. . .a wave of depression came over me,” the drunk is saying. “IContinue reading “Dr. Silkworth …The Little Doctor Who Loved Drunks Grapevine Article May 1951 By Bill W”
Showing Up With Integrity – A Spiritual Principle A Day May 27th
“Integrity is the state of being fully integrated: Our actions, our thinking, our feelings, our ideals, and our values all match up.” Living Clean, Chapter 3, “Spirituality Is Practical” Most of us think of having integrity as being honest and reliable, as keeping our word. While that’s certainly true, integrity has a deeper and moreContinue reading “Showing Up With Integrity – A Spiritual Principle A Day May 27th”
Accepting Life As It Is – Interview With Pema Chödrön By Ezra Klein
My alcoholism and its personal and collateral damage evoke a lot of emotions. And yet, as I work the program and move from the bedevilments of my addiction(s) (BB p.52) to the ‘new freedom’ (BBp.84) of recovery, I have an experience of acceptance as well as conscious contact and spiritual fitness from a God ofContinue reading “Accepting Life As It Is – Interview With Pema Chödrön By Ezra Klein”
Feel, Deal, Heal – Grapevine Article By Briggs C.
A three-word phrase that he didn’t understand—until he spent some quality time in the program There are very few original thoughts in the rooms of AA, but this may be one. It was a cold November morning years ago now that I walked through the door of Dawn Patrol in Albuquerque. I wanted to beContinue reading “Feel, Deal, Heal – Grapevine Article By Briggs C.”
Emotional Sobriety And Relationships Video By Dr. Allen Berger
What does emotional sobriety look like in our relationships ? Here are a few ideas that Dr. Berger has helped me to discover and begin to work on: The video is about 30 minutes and is packed full of meaningful insights from Dr. Berger’s very recent talk in 2026. Allen Berger is a leader inContinue reading “Emotional Sobriety And Relationships Video By Dr. Allen Berger”