Knowing It’s Not Personal – 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety – Dr. Allen Berger

Stop for a moment and think about all the things that upset you during the day. A friend says you’re not being attentive enough. Your partner seems to be ignoring you. The auto repair service implies you’re stupid for not knowing it was time to change the oil. A driver swerves in front of youContinue reading “Knowing It’s Not Personal – 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety – Dr. Allen Berger”

Reaching for Humility – As Bill Sees It #211

We saw we needn’t always be bludgeoned and beaten into humility. It could come quite as much from our voluntary reaching for it as it could from unremitting suffering. ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ “We first reach for a little humility, knowing that we shall perish of alcoholism if we do not. After a time, though we may stillContinue reading “Reaching for Humility – As Bill Sees It #211”

You And I Need Each Other – Grapevine Article May 1977 by E.S.

On sponsorship and the newcomer DEAR JOHN: I could almost begin this letter “Dear Newcomer.” The only problem with that is, I want you to know how close I feel to you at this moment in our lives. Watching new people grow renews my sobriety, I hope I never lose interest in the personal joyContinue reading “You And I Need Each Other – Grapevine Article May 1977 by E.S.”

Coping With Anger – As Bill Sees It #179

Few people have been more victimized by resentments than have we alcoholics. A burst of temper could spoil a day, and a well-nursed grudge could make us miserably ineffective. Nor were we ever skillful in separating justified from unjustified anger. As we saw it, our wrath was always justified. Anger, that occasional luxury of moreContinue reading “Coping With Anger – As Bill Sees It #179”

Turning Down The Volume – Grapevine Article April 2022 by Kiko M.

Not everybody is going to like me or like what I have to offer. What matters is that I like myself enough to continue to take my inventory and be of maximum service. Recently I had the opportunity to DJ at an AA conference. To prepare, I put in months of work, attempting to absolutelyContinue reading “Turning Down The Volume – Grapevine Article April 2022 by Kiko M.”

Who Is To Blame – As Bill Sees It #222

At Step Four we resolutely looked for our own mistakes. Where had we been selfish, dishonest, self-seeking, and frightened? Though a given situation had not been entirely our fault, we often tried to cast the whole blame on the other person involved. We finally saw that the inventory should be ours, not the other man’s.Continue reading “Who Is To Blame – As Bill Sees It #222”

Clean House, Help Others – Grapevine Article by Gary D.

Helping others in AA has a ripple effect that spreads beyond what we can see I’m a meatcutter and in one job I had I worked normal 8 to 5 hours. In my spare time, I took meetings to halfway houses and other recovery homes trying to carry this message. I was all set toContinue reading “Clean House, Help Others – Grapevine Article by Gary D.”

After the “Honeymoon “ – As Bill Sees It #216

For most of us, the first years of A.A. are something like a honeymoon. There is a new and potent reason to stay alive, joyful activity aplenty. For a time, we are diverted from the main life problems. That is all to the good. But when the honeymoon has worn off, we are obliged toContinue reading “After the “Honeymoon “ – As Bill Sees It #216”

Emotional Sobriety – As Bill Sees It # 288

If we examine every disturbance we have, great or small, we will find at the root of it some unhealthy dependency and its consequent unhealthy demand. Let us, with God’s help, continually surrender these hobbling liabilities. Then we can be set free to live and love; we may then be able to twelfth-step ourselves, asContinue reading “Emotional Sobriety – As Bill Sees It # 288”

The Timeless Marriage Of Self Will And Conflict – 12 & 12 Step 3 Pg. 37

Should his own image in the mirror be too awful to contemplate (and it usually is), he might first take a look at the results normal people are getting from self-sufficiency. Everywhere he sees people filled with anger and fear, society breaking up into warring fragments. Each fragment says to the others, “We are rightContinue reading “The Timeless Marriage Of Self Will And Conflict – 12 & 12 Step 3 Pg. 37”