When he stopped working the Steps, he was an AFTER FOURTEEN and a half years of sobriety, I found myself in an all too familiar place: tired of living, bored with AA meetings, full of self-pity, and wondering, “Is this all there is?” I had been very active in AA in the early years–secretary, chairmanContinue reading “Elder Statesman Without A Country – Grapevine Article February 1983 by B.B.”
Category Archives: Judgemental
Learning To Feel – Grapevine Article February 2023 by Laura S.
Early in my sobriety, my sponsor Linda told me that I was allowed to call and whine about a situation exactly once. After that, we were going to talk about solutions, not problems. She also gave me a time limit on feeling sorry for myself. I can’t remember if it was 10 minutes or 15Continue reading “Learning To Feel – Grapevine Article February 2023 by Laura S.”
How Important Is It Really – Practice These Principles Reflection by Ray A.
When I became president of my condo association, I started to notice that some neighbors were not particularly neighborly. People would do things like put their garbage outside their door and leave it there for hours before taking it down and depositing it in the dumpster. They would hang their doormat to dry on theContinue reading “How Important Is It Really – Practice These Principles Reflection by Ray A.”
Accepting Imperfection In Ourselves & Others – Bill W Letter with Anonymous Comments from ‘Friends of Bill’
Jim A. found this interesting article that perhaps can be thought of as identifying how we may not only expect perfection from ourselves but project it and impose it on others. One of the topics we’ve been discussing about emotional sobriety is our tendency to create unrealistic expectations of ourselves and others. When we findContinue reading “Accepting Imperfection In Ourselves & Others – Bill W Letter with Anonymous Comments from ‘Friends of Bill’”
Breaking The Bonds Of Perfectionism – ‘12 Essential Insights For Emotional Sobriety’ by Dr. Allen Berger
I want you to meet Maria, who was struggling in her marriage and was sabotaging her own attempts to achieve emotional sobriety. As you will see, her unrelenting pressure to achieve perfection was making it impossible to achieve emotional sobriety. I would even say that for Maria, as for all of us, perfectionism is asContinue reading “Breaking The Bonds Of Perfectionism – ‘12 Essential Insights For Emotional Sobriety’ by Dr. Allen Berger”
Using the 11th Step / St. Francis Prayer
The Saint Francis Assisi Prayer, often used as an 11th Step Prayer in Alcoholics Anonymous, is an immensely popular and empowering prayer used in recovery. Anyone moving through recovery will eventually encounter the prayer and will get to work through its significance and impact on their spirituality, life, and outlook. If you’re just starting your recoveryContinue reading “Using the 11th Step / St. Francis Prayer”
In The Eyes Of The Beholder – Grapevine Article August 2006 by Dennis W.
Learning how to see straight, one day at a time When I first came to Alcoholics Anonymous, I had opinions on everything and knew for certain which was the right or wrong side of an issue. The longer I am in Alcoholics Anonymous, the more I am like our Tenth Tradition, without an opinion onContinue reading “In The Eyes Of The Beholder – Grapevine Article August 2006 by Dennis W.”
That Day On The Bridge – Grapevine Article September 1962 by M.D.B
My thoughts were on a collision course with the oncoming train (yet all my troubles were within myself) IN May or June of 1948, I stood on the side of a viaduct in western Oregon and played host to a legion of morbid thoughts. A fast freight train rushed towards the tracks directly below. SinceContinue reading “That Day On The Bridge – Grapevine Article September 1962 by M.D.B”
Room To Grow – Grapevine Article June 1999 by Jim N.
Step 6 – Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. The way I read Step Six, Bill seems to be saying, “Don’t be in too much of a hurry to get better.” And the longer I’m sober, the clearer it becomes that I’m not really in charge of this gettingContinue reading “Room To Grow – Grapevine Article June 1999 by Jim N.”
Knowing It’s Not Personal – 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety – Dr. Allen Berger
Stop for a moment and think about all the things that upset you during the day. A friend says you’re not being attentive enough. Your partner seems to be ignoring you. The auto repair service implies you’re stupid for not knowing it was time to change the oil. A driver swerves in front of youContinue reading “Knowing It’s Not Personal – 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety – Dr. Allen Berger”