Category Archives: Character Defects

Response Ability – Grapevine Article June 2011 by Joe V.

The burdens of obligation transform to gifts of sobriety Before and during my drinking days, people were always talking to me about responsibility. I “had a responsibility” to be an excellent student, obedient son and religious child. I was also somehow responsible that children on the other side of the world didn’t go to bedContinue reading “Response Ability – Grapevine Article June 2011 by Joe V.”

Will Power and Choice – As Bill Sees It #88

We A.A.’s know the futility of trying to break the drinking obsession by will power alone. However, we do know that it takes great willingness to adopt A.A.’s Twelve Steps as a way of life that can restore us to sanity. No matter how grievous the alcohol obsession, we happily find that other vital choicesContinue reading “Will Power and Choice – As Bill Sees It #88”

Origins of Rule 62 ‘Don’t Take Yourself Too Damn Seriously’ – Twelve & Twelve Tradition 4

When A.A. was still young, lots of eager groups were forming. In a town we’ll call Middleton, a real crackerjack had started up. The townspeople were as hot as firecrackers about it. Stargazing, the elders dreamed of innovations. They figured the town needed a great big alcoholic center, a kind of pilot plant A.A. groupsContinue reading “Origins of Rule 62 ‘Don’t Take Yourself Too Damn Seriously’ – Twelve & Twelve Tradition 4”

Discovering True Worth – Humility’s Role In Overcoming Shame and Pride – Practicing These Principles by Ray A.

Feeling that we are different, that we don’t belong or fit in, is a staple of the alcoholic story. However, few openly connect the feeling with shame. Bill W does. In Pass It On and Alcoholics Anonymous Comes of Age, we read about two circumstances that fostered the emotion in him growing up. The firstContinue reading “Discovering True Worth – Humility’s Role In Overcoming Shame and Pride – Practicing These Principles by Ray A.”

How Important Is It Really – Practice These Principles Reflection by Ray A.

When I became president of my condo association, I started to notice that some neighbors were not particularly neighborly. People would do things like put their garbage outside their door and leave it there for hours before taking it down and depositing it in the dumpster. They would hang their doormat to dry on theContinue reading “How Important Is It Really – Practice These Principles Reflection by Ray A.”

Accepting Imperfection In Ourselves & Others – Bill W Letter with Anonymous Comments from ‘Friends of Bill’

Jim A. found this interesting article that perhaps can be thought of as identifying how we may not only expect perfection from ourselves but project it and impose it on others. One of the topics we’ve been discussing about emotional sobriety is our tendency to create unrealistic expectations of ourselves and others. When we findContinue reading “Accepting Imperfection In Ourselves & Others – Bill W Letter with Anonymous Comments from ‘Friends of Bill’”

Make Your Immaturity Pay – Grapevine Article March 1965 by Anonymous

Those defects can keep us alive to the need to change TWENTY years ago emotional immaturity was mentioned and discussed in our Fellowship frequently and in depth. We had a monopoly on it in those days. All of us were impressed. The fact that we all had it in varying degrees was universally accepted. ItContinue reading “Make Your Immaturity Pay – Grapevine Article March 1965 by Anonymous”

4th Step Fear Inventory – Practice These Principles by Ray A.

Healthy and Unhealthy Fear Overcoming our fear is not always a good thing. We ought to have feared drinking, suggests the Big Book, for we knew how much suffering and humiliation it had wrought. But we did not. We lacked “the kind of defense that keeps one from putting his hand on a hot stove”Continue reading “4th Step Fear Inventory – Practice These Principles by Ray A.”

In The Eyes Of The Beholder – Grapevine Article August 2006 by Dennis W.

Learning how to see straight, one day at a time When I first came to Alcoholics Anonymous, I had opinions on everything and knew for certain which was the right or wrong side of an issue. The longer I am in Alcoholics Anonymous, the more I am like our Tenth Tradition, without an opinion onContinue reading “In The Eyes Of The Beholder – Grapevine Article August 2006 by Dennis W.”

Half Measures of Honesty? – Grapevine Article February 1979 By C.B.

I HAVE BEEN a member of Alcoholics Anonymous for several years, and I am most grateful. The rewards and benefits I have received have all been made possible through accepting and following certain conditions set forth in the program of AA. Which of these conditions is of the greatest importance may be debatable. However, IContinue reading “Half Measures of Honesty? – Grapevine Article February 1979 By C.B.”