Knowing It’s Not Personal – 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety – Dr. Allen Berger

Stop for a moment and think about all the things that upset you during the day. A friend says you’re not being attentive enough. Your partner seems to be ignoring you. The auto repair service implies you’re stupid for not knowing it was time to change the oil. A driver swerves in front of youContinue reading “Knowing It’s Not Personal – 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety – Dr. Allen Berger”

Anger – Personal and Group Enemy – As Bill Sees It #98

As the book ‘Alcoholics Anonymous’ puts it, ‘Resentment is the Number One offender.’ It is a primary cause of relapses into drinking. How well we of A.A. know that for us ‘To drink is eventually to go mad or die.’ “Much the same penalty overhangs every A.A. group. Given enough anger, both unity and purposeContinue reading “Anger – Personal and Group Enemy – As Bill Sees It #98”

Turning Down The Volume – Grapevine Article April 2022 by Kiko M.

Not everybody is going to like me or like what I have to offer. What matters is that I like myself enough to continue to take my inventory and be of maximum service. Recently I had the opportunity to DJ at an AA conference. To prepare, I put in months of work, attempting to absolutelyContinue reading “Turning Down The Volume – Grapevine Article April 2022 by Kiko M.”

Self-centered fear, character defects and using our 4th step inventory to ”commence to outgrow fear”

Let’s use a combination of AA literature to better understand this important topic as we examine some key questions What is the root of our problems ? (Big Book pg 62) Whatever our protestations, are not most of us concerned with ourselves, our resentments, or our self-pity? Selfishness – self-centeredness! That, we think, is theContinue reading “Self-centered fear, character defects and using our 4th step inventory to ”commence to outgrow fear””

After the “Honeymoon “ – As Bill Sees It #216

For most of us, the first years of A.A. are something like a honeymoon. There is a new and potent reason to stay alive, joyful activity aplenty. For a time, we are diverted from the main life problems. That is all to the good. But when the honeymoon has worn off, we are obliged toContinue reading “After the “Honeymoon “ – As Bill Sees It #216”

Emotional Sobriety – As Bill Sees It # 288

If we examine every disturbance we have, great or small, we will find at the root of it some unhealthy dependency and its consequent unhealthy demand. Let us, with God’s help, continually surrender these hobbling liabilities. Then we can be set free to live and love; we may then be able to twelfth-step ourselves, asContinue reading “Emotional Sobriety – As Bill Sees It # 288”

God-Given Instincts – As Bill Sees It #142

Creation gave us instincts for a purpose. Without them we wouldn’t be complete human beings. If men and women didn’t exert themselves to be secure in their persons, made no effort to harvest food or construct shelter, there would be no survival. If they didn’t reproduce, the earth wouldn’t be populated. If there were noContinue reading “God-Given Instincts – As Bill Sees It #142”

Facing Criticism – As Bill Sees It #56

Sometimes, we register surprise, shock, and anger when people find fault with A.A. We are apt to be disturbed to such an extent that wecannot benefit by constructive criticism. This sort of resentment makes no friends and achieves no constructive purpose. Certainly, this is an area in which we can improve. << << << >>Continue reading “Facing Criticism – As Bill Sees It #56”

11 Men & A Prayer – Grapevine Article November 2017 by Ed L.

With a few canoes and horseshoes, and a little help from upstairs, a mountain fellowship begins It was in Quartz Hill, just west of Lancaster, California, where I first heard the expression, “Why pray when you can worry?”  Why, indeed? Three years ago, a handful of us stood around after the Wednesday night men’s stag meetingContinue reading “11 Men & A Prayer – Grapevine Article November 2017 by Ed L.”

The Green Demon – Grapevine Article May 1962 by M.D.B.

Jealousy is poisonous – but this AA member found an effective antidote I CAN mark one thing well, in looking back at my whirling nightmare of drinking, it was the only time I was ever completely jealous of total strangers! It amazes me now to remember that I had ugly and envious thoughts about innocentContinue reading “The Green Demon – Grapevine Article May 1962 by M.D.B.”