Self-centered fear, character defects and using our 4th step inventory to ”commence to outgrow fear”

Let’s use a combination of AA literature to better understand this important topic as we examine some key questions What is the root of our problems ? (Big Book pg 62) Whatever our protestations, are not most of us concerned with ourselves, our resentments, or our self-pity? Selfishness – self-centeredness! That, we think, is theContinue reading “Self-centered fear, character defects and using our 4th step inventory to ”commence to outgrow fear””

The Timeless Marriage Of Self Will And Conflict – 12 & 12 Step 3 Pg. 37

Should his own image in the mirror be too awful to contemplate (and it usually is), he might first take a look at the results normal people are getting from self-sufficiency. Everywhere he sees people filled with anger and fear, society breaking up into warring fragments. Each fragment says to the others, “We are rightContinue reading “The Timeless Marriage Of Self Will And Conflict – 12 & 12 Step 3 Pg. 37”

When Our Instincts Tyrannize Us – Twelve & Twelve / Step 4 pg 42

Creation gave us instincts for a purpose. Without them we wouldn’t be complete human beings. If men and women didn’t exert themselves to be secure in their persons, made no effort to harvest food or construct shelter, there would be no survival. If they didn’t reproduce, the earth wouldn’t be populated. If there were noContinue reading “When Our Instincts Tyrannize Us – Twelve & Twelve / Step 4 pg 42”

God-Given Instincts – As Bill Sees It #142

Creation gave us instincts for a purpose. Without them we wouldn’t be complete human beings. If men and women didn’t exert themselves to be secure in their persons, made no effort to harvest food or construct shelter, there would be no survival. If they didn’t reproduce, the earth wouldn’t be populated. If there were noContinue reading “God-Given Instincts – As Bill Sees It #142”

Seeing & Accepting Our Reality – 12 & 12 pages 122 -125

This extract from Step 12 can be thought of as a high level roadmap for helping us understand our ongoing journey toward emotional sobriety as we grow in maturity and balance. This journey has no ceiling ; we can always be in a mode of expansion. Bill W more deeply explored these themes in hisContinue reading “Seeing & Accepting Our Reality – 12 & 12 pages 122 -125”

Principles and Personalities – Grapevine Article June 1971 by J.C.

Keep your eye on the principle and don’t let the personality bug you MY NAME is Joe C. I have been sober four years now, and the last three have been happy years, though the first was miserable. I never want to live through that year again, and, if I don’t pick up that firstContinue reading “Principles and Personalities – Grapevine Article June 1971 by J.C.”

Prelude To The Program – As Bill Sees It #118

Few people will sincerely try to practice the A.A. program unless they have “hit bottom,” for practicing A.A.’s Steps means the adoption of attitudes and actions that almost no alcoholic who is still drinking can dream of taking. The average alcoholic, self-centered inthe extreme, doesn’t care for this prospect–unless he has to do these thingsContinue reading “Prelude To The Program – As Bill Sees It #118”

Complete Security? – As Bill Sees It #112

Upon entering A.A., the spectacle of years of waste threw us into panic. Financial importance was no longer our principal aim; we now clamored for material security. Even when we re-established in our business, terrible fears often continued to haunt us. This made us misers and penny-pinchers all over again. Complete financial security we mustContinue reading “Complete Security? – As Bill Sees It #112”

Antidote For Fear – As Bill Sees It #196

When our failings generate fear, we then have soul-sickness. This sickness, in turn, generates still more character defects. Unreasonable fear that our instincts will not be satisfied drives us to covet the possessions of others, to lust for sex and power, to become angry when our instinctive demands are threatened, to be envious when theContinue reading “Antidote For Fear – As Bill Sees It #196”

The Quest for Spirituality – Grapevine Article March 2020 by Earle M.

A good number of years ago, I found myself bewildered and uncertain about the meaning of spirituality and how one achieves it. After a rather frantic search, I fell upon an idea that presented a solution. I realized that by combining Step Twelve, Tradition Twelve, and the last sentence of the book Twelve Steps and TwelveContinue reading “The Quest for Spirituality – Grapevine Article March 2020 by Earle M.”