The burdens of obligation transform to gifts of sobriety Before and during my drinking days, people were always talking to me about responsibility. I “had a responsibility” to be an excellent student, obedient son and religious child. I was also somehow responsible that children on the other side of the world didn’t go to bedContinue reading “Response Ability – Grapevine Article June 2011 by Joe V.”
Category Archives: Perfectionism
Self Acceptance – 12 Essential Insights For Emotional Sobriety by Dr. Allen Berger
Acceptance and Self-Acceptance Acceptance comes in two types: acceptance of the world as it is and, more specifically, acceptance of who we are as individuals. Acceptance is one of the “big ideas” in recovery. This is one of the great challenges we face: accepting that life is what it is. When we struggle with addiction,Continue reading “Self Acceptance – 12 Essential Insights For Emotional Sobriety by Dr. Allen Berger”
How Do I Respond To Failing – Each Day A New Beginning Feb 3rd
When we begin to take our failures non-seriously, it means we are ceasing to be afraid of them. It is of immense importance to learn to laugh at ourselves.–Katherine Mansfield Perfectionism and its control over our lives stands seriously in the way of our growth and well-being, emotionally, spiritually, and even physically. Life’s lessons comeContinue reading “How Do I Respond To Failing – Each Day A New Beginning Feb 3rd”
Learning To Feel – Grapevine Article February 2023 by Laura S.
Early in my sobriety, my sponsor Linda told me that I was allowed to call and whine about a situation exactly once. After that, we were going to talk about solutions, not problems. She also gave me a time limit on feeling sorry for myself. I can’t remember if it was 10 minutes or 15Continue reading “Learning To Feel – Grapevine Article February 2023 by Laura S.”
Accepting Imperfection In Ourselves & Others – Bill W Letter with Anonymous Comments from ‘Friends of Bill’
Jim A. found this interesting article that perhaps can be thought of as identifying how we may not only expect perfection from ourselves but project it and impose it on others. One of the topics we’ve been discussing about emotional sobriety is our tendency to create unrealistic expectations of ourselves and others. When we findContinue reading “Accepting Imperfection In Ourselves & Others – Bill W Letter with Anonymous Comments from ‘Friends of Bill’”
Breaking The Bonds Of Perfectionism – ‘12 Essential Insights For Emotional Sobriety’ by Dr. Allen Berger
I want you to meet Maria, who was struggling in her marriage and was sabotaging her own attempts to achieve emotional sobriety. As you will see, her unrelenting pressure to achieve perfection was making it impossible to achieve emotional sobriety. I would even say that for Maria, as for all of us, perfectionism is asContinue reading “Breaking The Bonds Of Perfectionism – ‘12 Essential Insights For Emotional Sobriety’ by Dr. Allen Berger”
We Never Give Up – Grapevine Article February 2020 by Alex M.
A man from Nepal reminds him that we don’t have the power to get people sober. We just hope and keep reaching out On a cold morning in February, I got a call from an AA friend who was working with a local ministry group that helped refugees and immigrants who had been given asylumContinue reading “We Never Give Up – Grapevine Article February 2020 by Alex M.”
Room To Grow – Grapevine Article June 1999 by Jim N.
Step 6 – Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. The way I read Step Six, Bill seems to be saying, “Don’t be in too much of a hurry to get better.” And the longer I’m sober, the clearer it becomes that I’m not really in charge of this gettingContinue reading “Room To Grow – Grapevine Article June 1999 by Jim N.”
Between the Extremes – As Bill Sees It #159
“The real question is whether we can learn anything from our experiences upon which we may grow and help others to grow in the likeness and image of God. “We know that if we rebel against doing that which is reasonably possible for us, then we will be penalized. And we will be equally penalizedContinue reading “Between the Extremes – As Bill Sees It #159”