One of the most powerful tools AA suggests for emotional sobriety is the power of pause or restraint when we find ourselves disturbed. This pause or restraint can give us an opportunity to find a conscious contact with a Power greater than ourselves. This article attempts to share some common ways to deepen the freedomContinue reading “The Power Of Pause … Finding An Unsuspected Inner Resource ….Your Second Voice – Mashup Big Book, Twelve & Twelve, Dr. Allen Berger, & IFS”
Category Archives: Contradictions
Growing Up Emotionally – 12 Smart Things To Do When The Booze And Drugs Are Gone By Dr. Allen Berger
Emotional sobriety doesn’t spontaneously appear. We have to work hard at growing up. Bill did. In addition to the time he spent working the Steps, getting spiritual direction from the Reverend Sam Shoemaker, spending time alone in contemplation, and working with others, he also sought out psychotherapy. His therapist was the famous Dr. Harry Tiebout,Continue reading “Growing Up Emotionally – 12 Smart Things To Do When The Booze And Drugs Are Gone By Dr. Allen Berger”
Self Acceptance And The Twelve Steps
THE PROBLEM The lack of self-acceptance is a problem for many in recovery . This subtle defect is difficult to identify and often goes unrecognized. Many of us believed that our using was our only problem, denying the fact that our lives had become unmanageable. Even after we stop using, this denial can continue toContinue reading “Self Acceptance And The Twelve Steps”
AA And The Gift Of Acceptance – The Wisdom To Know The Difference By Kelly Wilson
Acceptance is a huge part of AA. One of the most frequently quoted stories from the AA Big Book is from the chapter entitled “Acceptance Was the Answer”: “And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation—some fact ofContinue reading “AA And The Gift Of Acceptance – The Wisdom To Know The Difference By Kelly Wilson”
Holding Our Stories Lightly – The Wisdom To Know The Difference By Kelly Wilson
I love the Mark Twain quote “It ain’t what you don’t know that gets you into trouble. It’s what you know for sure that just ain’t so.”. This article can be very helpful in developing humility which is described as the “foundation principles of each of AA’s Twelve Steps”(12&12p.70) – Bruce M. Here’s a conceptContinue reading “Holding Our Stories Lightly – The Wisdom To Know The Difference By Kelly Wilson”
The Goal Of Willingness – Get Out Of Your Mind And Into Your Life (Extract Chapter 9) By Stephen Hayes
The goal of willingness is flexibility. When you are able to be fully present in the here and now without being judgmental or without pushing away experiences (thoughts, feelings, emotions, bodily sensations, and so on) you have much more freedom to take needed steps to action. If you are willing to have an emotion, feeling,Continue reading “The Goal Of Willingness – Get Out Of Your Mind And Into Your Life (Extract Chapter 9) By Stephen Hayes”
The Untold Story Of Your Inner Critic By Jordin James
This article does a very good job of helping us understand the possibility of healing the inner voice you may hear which seems unrelenting in its criticisms and condemnations … what many call your inner critic. The section of the website entitled ‘Healing Our Jekyll/Hyde Divided Self’ begins to explore this area and help usContinue reading “The Untold Story Of Your Inner Critic By Jordin James”
How Grandiosity And Unworthiness Are Related Dangerous Traps By Jane Drew
The belief in how special and unique we are can develop into a grandiosity that we may need to recognize within ourselves. The Twelve & Twelve reminds us of what the results of a study of alcoholics concluded were our most common personality traits The doctors weren’t trying to find how different we were fromContinue reading “How Grandiosity And Unworthiness Are Related Dangerous Traps By Jane Drew”
4th Step/10th Step Emotional Sobriety Worksheet By Dr. Allen Berger
Introduction – Bruce M. This post introduces a worksheet that Dr. Allen Berger uses in his book 12 Essential Insights For Emotional Sobriety. As you may know, Dr. Berger has over 50 years of sobriety and is a Gestalt therapist specializing in addiction and recovery. You can find other articles from Dr. Berger in theContinue reading “4th Step/10th Step Emotional Sobriety Worksheet By Dr. Allen Berger”
Will A.A. Ever Have A Personal Government – Grapevine Article January 1947 By Bill W.
The answer to this question is almost surely “no.” That is the clear verdict of our experience. To begin with, each A.A. has been an individual who, because of his alcoholism, could seldom govern himself. Nor could any other human being govern the alcoholic’s obsession to drink, his drive to have things his own way.Continue reading “Will A.A. Ever Have A Personal Government – Grapevine Article January 1947 By Bill W.”