In the 4th step of the Twelve & Twelve on page 53, we are presented with this assertion: “The primary fact that we fail to recognize is our total inability to form a true partnership with another human being. Our egomania digs two disastrous pitfalls. Either we insist upon dominating the people we know, orContinue reading “Practicing Convey Not Convince – Reminders For Effective Conversations By Thom R.”
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The Essential To Recovery Of Self Acceptance By James Hollis
There is something in us, all of us, that knows what is right for us, which path is ours and not someone else’s, something that pushes us beyond our comfort zone into areas of growth, development, and presence in this world greater than we have lived up to this point. ….While all the twelve-step programsContinue reading “The Essential To Recovery Of Self Acceptance By James Hollis”
This May Not Pass – Grapevine Article By Steve B.
He learned to accept his physical condition and used AA to help him manage it each day After going to meetings and staying sober for over 20 years, with an average of two-to-three meetings a week, one would think that I’d have taken in every topic meeting imaginable. Not quite so. An AA saying thatContinue reading “This May Not Pass – Grapevine Article By Steve B.”
So That’s A Spiritual Experience – Grapevine Article January 1977 By Ed O.
Not always a flash of light, but being capable of doing what we couldn’t do before I CAN REMEMBER, early in my sobriety, feeling depressed because I not had a spiritual experience. I was sure that I alone had not undergone a sudden change of heart. This impression came from listening to some other membersContinue reading “So That’s A Spiritual Experience – Grapevine Article January 1977 By Ed O.”
Revolutionary! How Step 10 Suggests A Novel Response Ability When We’re Disturbed – Twelve & Twelve Pages 90, 91 By Bruce M.
*To explore this topic more thoroughly, click on the links to other articles. Also remember, it is never too early or too late to practice Step 10 much like Step 11. For many of us, it feels almost involuntary that when we are disturbed we ‘blame and complain’. And often this blaming and complaining leadsContinue reading “Revolutionary! How Step 10 Suggests A Novel Response Ability When We’re Disturbed – Twelve & Twelve Pages 90, 91 By Bruce M.”
Acceptance Not Blaming Others Or Condemning Ourselves – Touchstone Reflection July 2nd
Fair play is primarily not blaming others for anything that is wrong with us.—Eric Hoffer As adults, we accept responsibility for our feelings and our circumstances. We haven’t chosen our own troubles, but we have the job of dealing with them. If a person falls and breaks a leg, he might say to someone, “It’sContinue reading “Acceptance Not Blaming Others Or Condemning Ourselves – Touchstone Reflection July 2nd”
The Answer In The Mirror – As Bill Sees It #225
While drinking, we were certain that our intelligence, backed by will power, could rightly control our inner lives and guarantee us success in the world around us. This brave philosophy, wherein each man played God, sounded good in the speaking, but it still had to meet the acid test: How well did it actually work?Continue reading “The Answer In The Mirror – As Bill Sees It #225”
Using Blame To Avoid & Distort Reality – Keep It Simple June 25th
When a man points a finger at someone else, he should remember that three of his fingers are pointing at himself.—Louis Nizer It’s so easy to blame others. Others are always making mistakes we can hide behind. That’s what blame is—hiding. When we blame others for our mistakes, we’re trying to hide our character defects.Continue reading “Using Blame To Avoid & Distort Reality – Keep It Simple June 25th”
No Personal Power – As Bill Sees It #114
At first, the remedy for my personal difficulties seemed so obvious that I could not imagine any alcoholic turning the proposition down were it properly presented to him. Believing so firmly that Christ can do anything, I had the unconscious conceit to suppose that He would do everything through me—right then and in the mannerContinue reading “No Personal Power – As Bill Sees It #114”
Got A Pain In Your Feelings – Grapevine Article March 1950 By J.F.
Am I my own worst enemy? I’VE been in AA, and sober, for five years. But I still bruise easily–at times. Just when I think God is in heaven and the goose hangs high, something is said or done and–ouch!–I’ve got a pain in my feelings again! Ever have that happen to you, a painContinue reading “Got A Pain In Your Feelings – Grapevine Article March 1950 By J.F.”