Daily Reflections – October 7
Continued to take personal inventory. . . . . TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 88
The spiritual axiom referred to in the Tenth Step– “every time we are disturbed, no matter what the cause, there is something wrong with us”–also tells me that there are no exceptions to it. No matter how unreasonable others may seem, I am responsible for not reacting negatively. Regardless of what is happening around me I will always have the prerogative, and the responsibility, of choosing what happens within me. I am the creator of my own reality. When I take my daily inventory, I know that I must stop judging others. If I judge others, I am probably judging myself. Whoever is upsetting me most is my best teacher. I have much to learn from him or her, and in my heart, I should thank that person.
GUGOGS 10th Step Resources & Ideas Excerpt
Our recovery is less about changing what is happening externally and more about changing our perspective on what we see as we learn to respond differently in our actions and attitudes to the realities of our lives. The ancient Stoic philosopher Epictetus in the 2nd century described this realization as ‘we are not disturbed by things, but by the view which we take of them’. Many would describe recovery as a lifelong ’inside job’ of transforming our responses and worldview as we seek to practice spiritual principles for what we desire and for what we do … ‘our wills and our lives’ as described in Step 3
Step 10 Highlights
1. Step 10 Acid Test (page 88) – Can we stay sober, keep in emotional balance, and live to good purpose under all conditions.
2. Benefits of Self-Searching & Examination (page 88) – More experienced people, in all times and places, have practiced unsparing self-survey and criticism. For the wise among us have always known that no one can make much of his life until self-searching becomes a regular habit, until he is able to admit and accept what he finds, and until he patiently and persistently tries to correct what is wrong.
3. Emotional Hangover & Goal of Living in the Now (page 88) – Emotional hangover, the direct result of yesterday’s and sometimes today’s excesses of negative emotion – anger, fear, jealousy, and the like. If we would live serenely today and tomorrow, we certainly need to eliminate these hangovers….It requires the admission and correction of errors now…When our inventory is carefully taken, and we have made peace with ourselves , the conviction follows that tomorrow’s challenges can be met as they come.