Bruce M (italics) – This article uses an acronym I had never heard before FRED for fear, resentment, ego, and dishonesty. Like weeds in the garden of my life, I need discernment to see FRED clearly and the courage with God’s help to respond completely differently to my FRED. So much of my life hasContinue reading “How Finding FRED And Responding Differently To Him Keeps Us Sober – Grapevine Article March 2022 By Carol K”
Category Archives: Selfishness
Happiness Comes Quietly – Daily Reflection January 17th
When we examine what we demand and what we desire to possess, we have a great starting point for revealing our self-centered fears that may be unconscious and in need of healing. This can be a tremendous aid in our 4th step inventory. Click on the links to demands in this meditation to understand thisContinue reading “Happiness Comes Quietly – Daily Reflection January 17th”
Troubles Of Our Own Making – As Bill Sees It #272
Selfishness–self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles. Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate. Sometimes they hurt us, seemingly without provocation, but we invariably find that at some time in the past we have made decisions basedContinue reading “Troubles Of Our Own Making – As Bill Sees It #272”
Self Knowledge Is Not Enough – Big Book pg 38/39
However intelligent we may have been in other respects, where alcohol has been involved, we have been strangely insane. It’s strong language – but isn’t it true? Some of you are thinking: “Yes, what you tell us is true, but it doesn’t fully apply. We admit we have some of these symptoms, but we haveContinue reading “Self Knowledge Is Not Enough – Big Book pg 38/39”
Breaking The Bonds Of Perfectionism – ‘12 Essential Insights For Emotional Sobriety’ by Dr. Allen Berger
I want you to meet Maria, who was struggling in her marriage and was sabotaging her own attempts to achieve emotional sobriety. As you will see, her unrelenting pressure to achieve perfection was making it impossible to achieve emotional sobriety. I would even say that for Maria, as for all of us, perfectionism is asContinue reading “Breaking The Bonds Of Perfectionism – ‘12 Essential Insights For Emotional Sobriety’ by Dr. Allen Berger”
3rd Step Decision – Is It My Will Or God’s Will- The Steps We Took by Joe Mcq
Most of our troubles stem from spiritual sickness; and this spiritual sickness is nothing more or less than being blocked off from God by some fear, resentment, guilt, or remorse caused by self-will. Some people maintain that God punishes us when we do wrong, but He doesn’t have to punish us. When we live ourContinue reading “3rd Step Decision – Is It My Will Or God’s Will- The Steps We Took by Joe Mcq”
Turn It All Over – Grapevine Article January 1984 by J.W.
Step Three I WAS WHAT is called a high-bottom drunk. When I got to the AA program, I had not been beaten down enough to have anything even remotely approaching real humility. I was smug, arrogant, self-satisfied, and certain that every area of my life except my alcoholism was firmly and securely under my control.Continue reading “Turn It All Over – Grapevine Article January 1984 by J.W.”
The Root Of Our Troubles – Grapevine Article December 1979 by B.S.
He had created a whole universe centered around himself MANY YEARS ago, When I was just a small boy, filled with curiosity, I went to my father and asked him what heaven was like. Wisely, instead of trying to describe something no one really knows anything about, he asked me this question: “Suppose you wereContinue reading “The Root Of Our Troubles – Grapevine Article December 1979 by B.S.”
Where Is My Life Unmanageable ? Place Yourself Into The BB Pages 60 Thru 63
I was listening to a talk where the speaker suggested that we place ourselves directly into what is unmanageable in our lives. He suggested redoing pages 60 thru 63 of the Big Book with ‘ I’ and ‘me’… and see if this doesn’t help us identify what is unmanageable right now. And perhaps , ifContinue reading “Where Is My Life Unmanageable ? Place Yourself Into The BB Pages 60 Thru 63”